Behold the female.
In a book by the Soviet defector “Viktor Suvorov” he made a point, essentially – “imagine how bad Stalin and Soviet communism must have been if Ukrainians (and others) initially welcomed Hitler as a liberator.”
By analogy, imagine how bad White women must be if White men prefer Asian women; likewise, imagine how bad Black women must be if Black men prefer White women.
Advice for young men (*) contemplating marriage – long-term relationships are front-loaded for men and back-loaded for women, and, over time, the benefit vs. cost ratio of back-loading greatly outweighs that of front-loading. Thus, over time, women greatly benefit from marriage while men incur the costs. Put another way, early on, for men, benefits outweigh costs while later on costs outweigh benefits, while for women it is precisely the opposite. Since the latter phase is much greater in time than is the early phase, the net benefit is for women and the net cost is for men.
What do I mean by this? Relationships are best for men at the very beginning, while better for women for the rest of it, with increasing relative benefits for women over time.
Women are youngest and most attractive, and most eager and willing to sexually please the man, at the beginning of the relationship; further, the woman would be most agreeable overall and would make efforts to suppress negative aspects of her personality and behavior until the man is trapped into marriage. Thus, men get what they (generally) want at the very beginning of the relationship.
Let’s assume that after several years of a generally agreeable situation, the man consents to marriage. We will further assume that, as is typical, the couple has children. Now, the woman begins to get what she wants – the security of marriage, a legal hold over the man who can thus be exploited, children and a father for the children, etc. It is a stereotype that, after marriage, and particularly after children, women become much more disagreeable, less sexually active, unpleasant with nagging, etc. This latter “back-loaded” phase is typically much, much longer than the relatively brief “front-loaded” phase at the beginning. In essence, men are buying a brief period of agreeable companionship and sexual activity with a younger woman in exchange for many subsequent bleak years/decades of the “back-loaded” phase that favors the woman.
*Although this is aimed at White men, it applies for most men, although possibly in very patriarchal cultures (i.e., Middle. East, Near East, South Asian), it may not apply. For cultures (i.e., Black “American”, in which marriage, and other long-term relationships, is not very dominant, it may not apply either).
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